Mariage mixte à Maurice…
Etes vous pour ou contre le mariage mixte? Pourkoi?
Quelle evolution parmi les jeunes? Toujours taboo ou mieux accepté?
Quitter sa religion pour une autre, accepter d’autres coutumes/traditions est-ce possible?
Qu’en est-il des enfants?
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mo 100% daccord moi
deja kot moi ena ene couple mixte..mo frer ek mo bel ser
mo trouve li ok
ek ca marches
tank ki ena ene certaine entente should b ok
besides..
si dans morice pas pwena marriage mixte
kotsa pou ena sa??
its bound to happen..
anyways..
any1 who wants to marry me??
am 100% mauritian..
well, there has been a blog post about this topic recently on Mr Meetoo’s blog
http://www.noulakaz.net/weblog/2007/01/05/what-does-it-mean-to-be-mauritian/
Hi Ishtiba,
Mariage Mixte is still a dilemma but it is taking grounds in Mauritius…
As you may know, Islam forbids mixte marriages for girls due to the reasons that u mentionned above: Cultures/traditions/embracing a new religion… however, it is accepted for the boys to marry girls of other religions(but of the descendents of the Scriptures, i.e Christians and Jews) and they do not have to necessarily make the girls embrace Islam…
IT IS ACCEPTED IF THE OTHER PARTY(G/B) EMBRACES ISLAM AND THEN TheY both MARRY under Islamic vows!
Anyways, it depends on a person’s belief and/or acceptance of the other…
WE cannot say directly that we are for/against this type of marriages…
thank you all…
(for project )
need evryone’s point of view concerning this issue
@ Vicks
Thanx dear
will certainly take into consideration all those posts on Mr Meetoo’s blog.
If you can ask others to participate would be great..
moi mo con ban garcon ki sorti avec tou tifi tou communauté mais kan il s’agit de se marier zot rod dan zot communauté…
Wat u do think? Is this common in mauritius?
@ Sundeep
Would you accept to marry sm1 from any ethnic group? Dnt you feel more inclined towards a particular religion?
Mariage mixte – en tout cas, je ne suis pas contre! C’est vrai que ca peut s’averer difficile si l’un ou les deux (est) sont a fond dans leur “religion” – moi je pense que, de nos jours, c’est plutot une question de culture. Beaucoup de jeunes ne suivent pas leur religion a 100% mais le fait qu’on ait vecu dans une culture specifique peut alterer notre regard sur plein de truc..
Cependent, Gare aux partenaires qui veulent a tout prix changer leur conjoints sur le plan de la religion!!!!! C’est la que ca se gaterait je pense…
I’m not against but, yeah, it may not always be an easy relationship because of culture and all. I saw one mariaz mix fail but I know of another one which is doing very good.
I think a mixed marriage can take 3 forms, mixed race, mixed culture or mixed religion. I am for all three as what matters the most at the end of the day is the person, their aptitude and attitude. Which religion or race they belong to does not really mean much I think.
I think one’s cultural background plays a much more important factor in marriages. Cultural practices can influence one’s choice to marry or not to marry a person and it can create frictions in marriages. For me, I love to explore new cultures, so here again, I am all for it. But when it comes to the children, it sometimes can be a bit hard to decide which culture to teach them. Some of the values in the different cultures may clash and it can be hard to evaluate which one is the best for the kid. In many situations, I see the parents letting the child decide which culture to adopt. The other risks is that cultural significance and values may be diluted when it is mixed up, thus resulting in a slow bastardization of culture. For example, Mauritians who marry British usually see their children adopting the British culture more than the Mauritian one, but they tend to have their own ‘British values & traditions’. In most cases, the geographical location of the partners greatly influences the culture that the child adopts.
I do not think religion has much significance nowadays, so if people change one religion for the other for the sake of marriage, then I do not see it having much significance. It is a matter of choice and a matter of whether that becomes a condition for the wedding to or not to happen. Religious customs and traditions fall in the same basket for me, not much significance.
@ishtiba..
nopes..
actually mo pas kikene de tellement religieux..so meme si mo religion ti pou interdire li..dnt think mo ti pou follow li..
the point is however..
if ever some day i marry some1..its not her religion that i want..it her..and i wnt b imposing my religion on her..and expect her to do the same..
besides hey..
i find all this pretty outdated
mo konner ki pena bcps dimoune ki think kouma moi
bt hey..
we r in 2007..
sa ban truc casteism ek communalism la pena zot place..
and hey..nou dans ene ene pays multiracial..
si ici pas pwena sa..then whr??
and to answer ur question ish..
no..am not inclined towards any religion..
so long..i find some1 who loves..care for me..and is some1 very understand..ek ki pas per ban truc kom araignee ek crancrelat..(akoz mo extra per sa!!!!) lol..
still no one wants to marry me???
i’ll even agree to cook..and look after the children..euh..except to change the kids..:p
I think that mariage mixte greatly contributes to increase national unity in a country. My parents themselves are muslim and hindu. Yet they go along perfectly well, with each one respecting the other.
But i think that Islam is more intolerant than any other religion regarding mixed mariage. But who cares? I know of only one race – the human race and we all belong to that. Religion creates unnecessary barriers between people.
Long live the mixed mariage !!
@ Sundeep
U r right in saying we r in in a multiracial country but everyone doesnt thk like you. dats the problem
talking of casteism n communalism i thk li toujours la..avec le temps ca change biensure mais malheureusement li toujours la.. I kw persons who got married sme yrs back but they got some problems just bfore wedding coz of caste!!
N Sundeep love n mariage r different
Ena enta jeunes dire zot pour mariage mixte but en realité zot look for their “type”.
P etre nou 1 societé hypocrite apres tou!
et souvent a moris on voit que c la femme ki doit abandonner sa religion/ suivre la religion de son mari! ken pensez vous les mecs?? lol
@ Nirvan
Its true dat it will bring more unity in this country…Can i kw for hw long ur parents been married? n the family/ in laws all good relationships?
Smts its sad that families reject their son/daughter coz they cant accept it!
Concerning Islam..its a bit true bt the prob here is that Islam differs so much from other religion…intolerant maybe coz the customs, traditions,etc are a bit in contradiction wiz other religions. N like Zayna says sm1 has to embrace Islam to get married… So mixed marriages involving Muslim a bit complex…
personally..
mo pas ene dimoune ki pou impose moi lor mo fam
its better kan ene la pas impose lor lot la..evite ene tas conflit pou nanien sa..ene tas dimoune pas pense kouma moi..
mo pas content ena conflit pou nanien..coz u feel stupid afterwards..
wi ish to ena raison..love and marriage 2 zaffaire..mais zot complementaire..sans love..mariaz la kouma dire ene bato pena capitaine..bien sure..ena encore ban lezot zaffaire ki bizin prend compte..mais anyways..li depends couple..bah..sa ene lot discussion..
revenons a nos moutons
i still believe ki sa ban truc casteism ek communalism la pena zot place dans la societe..mo mauricien avant tout..mo pas nek dire li..mo esseye make it reflect dans tout seki mo fr..
still no one to marry me??? :s
pas nek femme ki abandone so religion..ek li bien bete sa..kitte to religion akoz to boug ou to fam dire toi fr li..wht nonsense..li siposer accept toi ek respecter to belief kouma tweter non??
on the other hand..dans tout mariaz ena ban compromis ki bizin fr..pou ki tout se passe bien..kav sa truc change religion li ene parmi..i dunno..
bt ya one thing..
demain..whoever comes into my life..whichever religion..mo pou content li parey..and that she can b sure of it
another solution..
both give up there religion..
Hi folks,
Interesting debate. Allow me a small contribution as a person who has done and is still in a mixed marriage.
As you may all know, Avinash comes from a Hindu family (though he is an atheist/agnostic) and I myself come from a mixed background (my dad comes from China and is supposed to be a buddhist and he was forcefully baptised on his arrival in Mauritius but he’s basically an atheist; my mum comes from a muslim family but she chose on her own to convert to catholicism as an adult). I myself was raised into catholicism and used to attend mass every sunday until adulthood but now I’m also an atheist/agnostic.
We had a real mixed marriage with both a hindu priest and a catholic one officiating on the same platform with them alternating the use of the microphone; not two separate ceremonies which is usually the case in Mauritius. There was no competition but collaboration and I think that this was already a good starting point. I have heard that many people in fact have two different ceremonies on two different days so that none of the two ‘priests’ may know that there’s another ceremony being performed. How about calling that cheating???
Though all of this mixity appears a bit complicated and could have generated lots of problems, thankfully, this was not the case. And there’s a simple word that can explain why: ‘HUMANISM’. There’s only one race after all: humanity. Religion is just a packaging around humanity. It is a pity that many people stop only at the packaging level and never get through the different layers to the core. Similarly, marriage is just another packaging around the idea of relationship. And whether the marriage is mixed or not is not really the issue as lots of same-religion marriages fail as well (maybe even more). If a mixed marriage fails, I’m almost sure it would have failed anyway even if the two were of the same religion.
Phew, that was not as short as I would have liked it to be…
@christina
it was the same scenario for my elder bro’s wedding, both the hindu and the catholic priest sharing the mic and doing the ceremony on the same stage..
i found this rather beautiful..till now there hasnt been any problem concerning religions..
from what i had witnessed..i always thought that this would always work for all couple who dared go against their religion for the sake of their relationship..bt in many cases this has been a flop? bt as christina mentionned..would it have been different if both were of the same religion??
mo croire ki..dans ene relation..c sa 2 individu ki involved la ki kav fr ki ne relation li marcher ou pas..pas religion..whtever religion it may b..
oh btw
happy valentines to every1
mo pas feter this year also :s
Hi, Ish
Pour moi, mariaz mix n’est pas un problem, dans ene pays couma l’ile maurice li inevitable! Mais bocou dire ki apres mariaz la ki problem la lever, a cause zenfants. Cest a dire kouma pou elever zenfants etc, mais moi mo dire ena problem si seulement zot religion pran le dessus apres mariaz. Ena bien des couples ki oublier ki kan zot ti kontant zot pa fine gette religion, mais apres mariaz zot oublier sa bien vite. C’est la lereur d’apres moi, moi ek mo mari nu pas de la mem religion et nous ena ene zanfant. Pou nou li pa ene problem ki religion li pou suivre parski nu dire li to “Moitié Tamoul Moitié Marathi”!. Ek en se ki concerne ki religion li pu suivre, nou amene li tou les deux coté! Mais mo garson li ine pe scientifique li dire moi bizin “voir pu croire!”. Sa ene lote debat sa!
Ek entre moi ek mo mari la ousi nu pas ena ocaine problem en ce qui concerne religion. Ek en ce qui concerne mo belle mere mo bien CARRER r li! Mo pa vivre r li mai seulement r so garson! Ha Ha Ha! Mai serieusement, moi ek mo belle-m nu korek, nu pa zoine souvent mai li korek, li pa agace moi ek moi non plu. Kan mo cote li, li recevoir moi bien ek moi de mem. Le secret mo croir cest lacceptation de l’un et de l’autre sans barier, ni prejuger, kan ou accepter pu marié avec ene lautre religion ban zen bizin comprend ki, dimoune la p vine avec tou so culture, ou religion pa du jour au lendemain ki li bizin chanzer pou ou!
Ban zen pense bien avan marié! normalement nu dir ki mariaz pa en badinaz! en ce ki concerne mariaz mix li 2 foi pli pa ene badinaz si pa ena laceptation de ene culture different que le notre.
Let me add some spice to the reality of Mixed Marriage in Mauritius…
I know a man and his group (u know, these closely knitted persons) in POrt-Louis who search for muslim girls who have married guys of other religion… and then he/his group just brainwashed the girls to divorce and to return to their parents home and eventually marrying muslim guys…
And he even advertised for his services of ‘casse mariage mixte’ on a free religious pamphlet which appears every friday(jummah) so as to touch more people in the muslim community…. comme quoi? Le ciblage!
My opinion: These girls are not stupid man… They are mature enough to have taken such a decision in our so concervative religious mauritian society. They have chosen their own life and we should let them live it!
When will their be acceptance of the other??? You marry for a life-time and not just for the sake of love… You marry a person because you share the same ideologies in life… Once again, i repeat myself: You cannot force a person to accept another religion just for the sake of getting married and being accepted by the in-laws/respective families….
if he/she doesnt want to convert, thats his/her own choice…
@ Christina
Its indeed rare for the 2 priests to be officiating same place.
Thanx for sharing your personal experience wiz us. u got a really mixed family…compliqué
U r right in saying that its the 2 persons who finally make the mariage work.
@ Zayna
Sa ban dimoune ki fer sa vraiment nul! So narrow-minded…
I even heard a story where a group of persons entered the house of a gurl n beat her coz she was gng out wiz sm1 from another community/religion. U imagine we r in 2007 n we still hear such stories!!
@ Saro
good
u r no more passive blogger nw
Am nt that much for mixed mariage coz i kw wat it involves.. n especially am nt that keen to drop my culture/traditions etc even if am nt that religious..maybe am more concerned with identity here…Mais pa coner ki kpav ariver dan la vie.. puis-je tomber amoureuse de kelkun d’1 otre religion et me marier avec lui? On c jamais LOL But I wnt agree to convert dats for sure! no compromise with me
Com tu la dis du jour au lendemain on peut pas se changer..
I think when you talk about identity, it’s important to keep religion out of it. Religion is a way of life combined with beliefs of a super power. It does not provide one with identity, but it provides someone with an association to a group that has a collective belief. If gives you a title that links to the group but not to you as a person. Your identity is your personality, aptitude & attitude, which is far more subjective and complex than the doctrine that is religion.
Just like people change their lifestyle when they get richer or poorer, your religious practice style can change depending, for example, on where you live (internationally). So I don’t think changing religion really has much of an impact on the essence of religious practice itself, as all the religions have more or less the same essential underlying beliefs/structure.
Hi Ish,
And sorry i cudnt make the copies u requested… as our two industrial photcopying machines are down!!!! we do at least a 50,000 copies a week… so u may guess!!! as soon as they r ok, i promise u i will make the copied of my ’scriptures’ for u!
anyways, let me tell you something… since 4 years, i happen to face the dilemma of a mixed relation everyday as my colleague fell in love/is still in love with me. We work at the same dept. ANd He is waiting for a positive answer from me! He is la creme de la creme at the exception that he drinks/smokes alot….
there is something that is called RESPECT. and i respected him more than LOVING him and that eventually prevented me from falling in love with him… Faith also counts… if your faith(imaan) in ur religion is strong, it will prevent u from embracinga nother religion(thats my own opinion)…
Otherwise, HE is a very good friend and comprehensive person… but u see, if i didnt limit myself to respect/friendship, i probably would have been living a mixed marriage with him…. Though he was prepared to convert, i couldnt see myself living with him!
Hi Ish,
Pa veu dire ki tu dois changer pour lautre, mais plutot d’accepter l’autre comme il est avec sa culture etc. Of course it involves a lot of things, for a marriage to work it does not mean that only one party is to make all the effort of understanding the other. Is it not a two way traffic? Me too I thought that I will marry in may religion, but I have no regret whatsoever! Me and my other half understand each other perfectly. Still is does not mean that I have dropped my religion. I still practice mine, even my husband do – I also go to his temple or religious ceremony, bcs does we not say that there is only one god. And my marriage was done in Marathi only, we discuss it before and I accepted the idea because a belssing is a blessing in whichever languange it is! What do you say?
But mind you I’m absolutely not trying to convince you to do it, I’m sharing my experience that all. I know that mix marriage is not so easy. But as christina says “There’s only one race and that is HUMANITY”
@ shaan..
I agree wiz you: identity is more about personality.. Bt I thk many youngsters n esp. in Mauritius try to find some sort of belonging ( appartenance) dat is really important..n many find that in their religion/religious convictions. Religious identity is also part of their identity here.
maybe its coz we r faced with so many cultures here kon veut chercher d reperes dans la vie.. Suis croyante mais pas tro pratiquante, mais malgre sa cette identité religieuse a toujours fait partie de ma vie.
Hi. Just discovered ur blog.
Well me too I’m kind of concerned with that and I was quite shocked by the attitude of many people concerning “le marriage mixte”. I initially thought that is was not an issue but to my dismay it is still incredibly hard for people to accept this! For my sake I can only hope that the situation improves but honestly I prefer not keeping any hope!
@ zetwal
C vrai ke c pas osi accepté kon le croyait.
Hi ish,
As a teenager, I wud like to contribute to this discussion. Well frankly speaking im against mixed marriages. I would marry someone in my religion only.I like and admire other cultures n religions but when it comes to marriage it would only be in my religion. I would not be able to live with someone who do not share the same religious beliefs as mine.And also when it comes to children i would like my children to follow the my religion. I also think that even if someone of the other religion converts to your religion he/she would still not be able to follow it completely as they would not have the same values n beliefs that we learned since childhood.
A bit different from many teenagers viewpoint but that’s my personal opinion.
Hi nabila
As an agnostic, I can’t understand the fuss abt religion. I see enough divisions round me to have religion as another barrier!
hi lolz, mwa seki mo penser lor la, cke, marriaz ene bon zafer pu certain dimoune, mai mwa, mo napa tom dan sa lasos la, coz ENA MALAD LADAN…well besides all that, its good to get married…afterall mixed marriage, wai wai mo dakor r sa, li mari top, et c ki pli importan c de savoir garder le marriage dan une bonne direktion….pa nek marrier apres dir, wai wai guet sa si to pa fair sa, lev bagaz alle kot to mama laba….lolz
wen u talk abour marriage, knw how to keep it safe and at the top of it…si to kone gard lavi marriaz, zamai to pu trouve li bomli…samem tou mo kav dir..loz….see to wat i`ve said got some hints to u..c ya.naina from mauritius college lower six red
and forgot to add, if u love someone truly, then sa kozer mix marriage la pena valer devan la societer, mwa im an indian, si 2main arriver mone ale tombe amoureuse avek ene muslim..zamai mo pu gagne letemp pu penser ki lot dimoune dir derrier mo ledo, mo pu bien karer r li mwa…so adding all together, i can say if love is true among mix religions..ab POURQUOI PAS MIX MARRIAGE…
Hi everybody!
I am sure most of us did not choose the religion we were born in, but we can choose not to let it interfere with and control our life.
It is already so hard to find your “half”, do not lose the chance of your life because of it or fears, etc.
Being hypocrite and asking the woman/man you love most in this world to be a hypocrite just to please your family, especially when yourself you do not care about religion, it is not a good start in a marriage, so have the courage and really stand up, otherwise you destroy your life by ending up with somebody to please your family and not yourself.
NAina..
Am sorry had to delete that last part of your second comment lolz…lets talk about this issue instead of those crappy ministers..:) Another teenager’s viewpoint good… I hear there’s a lot of students from mixed marriages at skul. C vrai ca?
U r quite right…but wat about your parents? It is said dat mariage also involves two families..ki to penser lor la?
am sorry for postin late ish. pa ti p gagne letan.
phew… after reading all the posts, i can say ki ena bann cerveau en ceki concerne marriage around.
am an atheist. religion, god etc have no meanin for me. but at the same time i dont believe in love or mariage.
an anecdote : some time back i told my dad that i love a gal. his first question:
-Ki li ete? (meanin wat religion)
-Tamil, was my answer.
That was enough for him.he said he was against that relation.
I loved that gal n wanted to be frank n tell my parents that i love her.period.
but my dad wasnt agreeable. accordin to me he feared that 1 day i ll marry that gal. so he said:
-to enkor zenes, enjoy. kifer to p rant dan sa ban zafer la. moi dan mo lepok… bla bla bla… mo ti koumsa koumsa… blablabla
i got my answer. je me demande si that gal was a hindou, had a good job n belonged to a rich family, wat would be his reaction?
kelke part i understand his reaction coz my uncle (his bro) married a gal from another ethnic grp n this entailed enn ta prob.
so i prefer stayin away from all this-love,marriage- n live my life as i want.
love for me is somethin stupid. n i stay away from stupidities.
i may no some one, spend some nice moment together, be friends thats all.engagin myself is too cumbersome.
yes sometimes i feel lonely but from the top of my 22yrs i seen enough- divorce, infidelity, etc. so i prefer manz r li tou sel
Yaveen
yr1.
hey yaveen vraiment late sa! lol
“Ki li ETE”? is a term we unfortunately stil hear in Mauritius..
Pour toi c osi tres surprenant wen u n dat girl both belong to the same religion..coz after all your religion is Hindu..
We say we r multiracial society.. nou morisien above all but wen it comes to marriage we still cant accept the other religion..
Hi, Ishtiba. hav 2 say i’ve gon out with boyz of christian (coz am a christian), tamil, hindu faith. rite nw am wiz a muslim. my parents no abt it n der nt ready to accept it. i’v bin forewarned abt marrying a muslim bt i never had any prejudice towards any1 of a differing faith. i’l try n make this short. religion is a way of life, how u bliv that things came abt, hw they will in the future and hw u deal wiz it. he never forced islam on me but shed sm light on what i didn’t no. i never forced christianity on him but told him all that he wanted to hear. n we moved on from there. that’s the way. NO FORCING ANY1! Also, it’s true that people are still ariéré. My grandma still asks “1 malbar ca? 1 lascar ca?” (no offense meant but that’s hw it is) on the other hand parents are convinced zot p fer bien, met zot zanfan dan droit chemin. cnt blame dem 4 dat. it’s still deep rooted dan culture…
Very interesting topic!!!!!!!!! Just a short comment as i dont have mich time. Well all depends on the couple’s “mutual understanding” on the basis of GOD and not religion. And above all, zot bizin not only accept the beliefs of each other but also question and reject things whcih seems unpractical and which is UNTRUE.
But i sincerely think that this taboo topic should be broken as mny sincere lovers are facing loooooooads of problems to build their future with their companion, just because of the simple fact of “mentalite morisien”
Love just happens, we cant fill in a “religion form” before deciding whether we can fall in love or not. And above all love is God, and pairs are made in heaven. In my case, i realyyyyyyy believe that my companion is my perfect match..
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We live in a multicultiral nation, and as per that mixed marriage should not be a taboo but aceptable. India, UK, USA and many many other countries view this as a very casual topic. then why cant we?? I personnally agree with mixed marriage. and to be frank, i am planning to go for a mixed marriage. we have very great plans and the “mutual understanding” in our couple. BUT living in Mauritus we know very well what storm is awating us when our parents will come to know. but we are determined to face it and to succeed throughout. But the question to ask is why we lovers should suffer from such reaction. why cant we take our decision on our own. afterall we are going to live our future. ofcourse if we do not know ourselves where we are going, then that would be a big problem.
However parents are not to be totally blamed for their behaviour. They react as per “mentalite morisien”, which has been dominating society for many years. but again we are paying the price of others’ deeds. Y???
i feel that we should break this taboo in Mauritius as many TRUE lovers are suffering due to this. En tou k i cant imagine for a single second, leaving my love and marrying someone else (of my religion). i wonder how many have done it?? and perhaps thats the reason for fiasco and broken marriages. Or even suicide?? Or y not extra marital affairs?? Or even worst, lost of faith in Love and in God.
Bizin Progres!!!!!!
Hi to all.
It’s definitely an interesting debate: the issue of mix marriage. First can we talk of the concept of “mix” in love which is the basis of marriage? Does love has any colur or religion? Will the religion I am prevent me from falling in love? I am madly in love with naw(who posted a comment some time back). We are from 2 different religion yet we share one love. Believers of god will agree that god is love and as such love can only unite people. Difficult times exist in every couple. No one can avoid it. Only a mutual understanding will help solve any problem. Where couples are from different religious background, I prone a convergence of belief. In other words each party must learn his beloved belief and understand it. Then, just like mothers “trier brede”, they should forsake wrong beliefs and adhere to the good ones. I don’t believe in religion but I practice my belief in god. To pray or communicate with god doesn’t require any specific settings, God listens to us constantly. God preaches love, sincerity and truth. I love naw sincerely and truthfully. I am doing nothing wrong. To men we may be sinning or we may be digging our own trap but we know we are living life like never b4.
Since we are together Naw and I have had to overcome many hurdles. Mauritian parents are still attached to the obsolete conception of race and heredity. We have to hide to meet. Even e\when we meet, we must always be on alert in case someone sees us. We cant go shopping freely. We can’t even go and have lunch peacefully. It very hard sometimes but we are confident upon the success of our love. We received help so many times. It is not today that our Tikamarad will let us down. To undergo mix marriage is quite difficult in Mauritius. It is strange how one cannot even love in peace nowadays. Is it bad? Aren’t we big enough to bear the consequences of our decisions?
Love is truly blind. It is white as snow. It is pure like water. Denying love would be denying one that pure water is poison. Yet some are ready to believe it. To them I say that no one can stop me from loving my dil COMEWAT MAY.
U will shortly be invited to our wedding (if God wills) – I know he wills…love is no sin
Jaan
@ naw n Jaan
thanx for your comments.. I wish you good luck n hope that evryg wil be ok later on…
g rencontré kelke couples mixtes sur le campus et bocou d’entre eux font face o meme problemes ke vous.. toujours l’incompréhension des parents et le regard de la societé
On espere tous un changement de mentalité des parents.. Bizin Sanzman lol
kozé naw(kaala), to p met seryé tou
thats y u were tauntin me this mornin!!!
well i dont believe in those t(s)hi(t)ngs.
jokin
good luck, manz r li. mai apré pa vine dire tonton yav pane dire
@ ish
U r a feminist???!!!
tonton yav… to advise la dans sire mem sa.. pa kave pa croire ou mo tonton!
anyways, best of luck for jaan&naw… not all people are lucky as u are guys!
ok guys, lets try somethin new: try to see the world from another perspec. meanin from the material point of view.
i explain.you would agree that love comes from the heart, yeah.that is ‘thinkin’ with the heart. Try thinkin with the mind. sounds insane n shit-bull to u rite?
well its difficult, surely.but with practice u ll get it. STOP PUTTIN EMOTIONS IN. THATS ALL.
am a material girl livin in a material world… (madonna)
moi mo pa tu a fait d’accord ar mariage mixte
@ muzzamil
plz can u tel me…pou ki raison to pas dakor ek mariaz mixte..?
yo ish, i ve noticed somethin: mixed marriage is much more accepted in in the high society. it s only ban “ti dimoune” ki faire enn ta tapaz.
but accordin to me mixed relations, not mixed marriage, is very good.
look at lecturers at uni, politicians, CEOs. they ve mixed-married n they look happy together. i hope ki lapparence pa trompeuse in these cases
yav
@ YAv
U r right.. wen we interviewed people concerning this issue we observed that education played a vital role! Higher level of education = more acceptance ! It created less problems for the couples also.
yav and ish…
you are right…
But the problems comes to parents then naa..
if the couple have achieve high level education and mixed marriage are acceptable to them as they know that they are going to be happy together (Provided they do love)
then parents (being practical not that educated or educated but in an *-) “old fashion way”) then they will obviously not share the acceptance.
c sa ki cloche dedan…
enfin, toutefois, c vrai ke “we are going to live with each other” et non pa les parents..
But still, things would have been far better if they could accept it as normale.. and faisable.
Hi Ishtiba!
I wanted to ask you for a long time: what if you love a Christian man, want to marry him but you cannot have a Muslim wedding ceremony? Would you step up for him in front of your family no matter what?
Hmmm…rilly interesting topic..sum1 out there said it so rite: ke some ppl r willin to go out wv sum1 who’s not of z same religion as him but howeva isn’t ready to marry zat same ppl?? wat can u say about zis??
i know this guy, i don’t know if he’s changed now (i doubt it!) but he’s a playboy and goes out with many girls at the same time and it doesn’t matter to him which religion they belong to.
many girls are victim of his charming ways and impeccable way of lying…
but when it comes to marrying someone, he is downright honest about THAT and openly admits that he will only marry a girl of his own religion and a GOOD GIRL at that… hmm :-S
hi everybody
i’m against because of one element which is religion ; the religion has most important
it’s the way of life
ce que je croite que il ya pocoup de objectives de la marriage .and its alway very nec to meet them as far as possible (love ,pleasure,keeping vaues ,tradition habites and dignity ) and i don’t believe that between heavenly religion there is anyb contrrusting that peut etre empiche une marrige mixte parmis it followers.
Mais il rest toujour vari qui les marriage de les gen de le meme direction sont plut succese qque l marrige mixte